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Duties of parents?

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All praise is due to Allah: The lord of the worlds; The lord of the universe; We praise him, We seek his forgiveness and we ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, Most great. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, nodai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear brother we have started this website with the sole intention of helping our brothers and sisters to understand the message of Allah, and this we do for the sake and pleasure of Allah. We do not want any name or fame, but what is our humble goal, is to try to make Allah’s Word supreme in this world. Dear brother, As a Muslim, it is important to understand the significance and responsibility of the parenting role, the importance of preparing the children for hereafter and the obligation of protecting them from hellfire. Allah says in the glorious Quran:

O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do (precisely) what they are commanded. Quran[66:6]

Narrated Abdullah bin 'Umar: I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "Everyone of you is a guardian, and responsible for what is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for it." I heard that from Allah's Apostle and I think that the Prophet also said, "A man is a guardian of is father's property and is responsible for it, so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and things under your care." SAHIH AL-BUKHARI [VOL:3, BOOK:41, HADITH: 592]

The upbringing of a Muslim child should be the life-long mission of every God-Fearing parent; and if every believing parent fulfills his role in this duty, then ‘Insha-Allah’ the next generation of muslims will not suffer the humility and degradation that our generation has suffered at the hands of the disbelievers.

Some of the many duties of the believing parents towards their child are mentioned below:

1) One should respect and honor the child and should always avoid disrespecting them.

2) One should cherish & nurture the child with utmost care and affection.

3) One should teach the child the good manners and should provide them the best education both of Islam and the world.

4) Encourage and help them learn and practice the religion “al- Islam”.

5) Make them understand the value of being truthful and honest.

6) Make them understand their relation with Allah and his prophet (pbuh).

7) Be righteous & god fearing yourself ‘inshallah’ your child will follow the path.

8) One of the fundamental concept of parent is that the children’s are the test from Allah and parents will be held accountable on the day of judgment about their upbringing of the child that Allah gave them.

9) Teach them kindness, respect and obedience towards parents.

10) Teach the establishment of prayer, on time in correct manner.

11) Enjoining them what is right and forbidding what is wrong.

12) Make their attachment with Quran and Sunnah.

13) Make them self confident, motivated, responsible, persistent, hard working, capable, skillful, content, satisfied, honest, trustworthy, courageous, and a leader.

14) Nurture iman in the children, ibn al qayyim says that iman is composed of following components:

a) Having the knowledge of what prophet(pbuh) taught.

b) Having complete and firm belief in what prophet (pbuh) brought.

c) Verbally professing ones belief in what he brought.

d) Submitting to what he brought out of love and humility.

e) Acting in accord with what prophet(pbuh ) brought, both inwardly and outwardly.

If we will not fulfill this role then definitely Allah does not need any one, He will destroy us and will bring a new generation who will love Allah and honor his commandments, and allah will love them. thus We pray to Allah to guide us to the right path and help us to honor your commandments and the role of parenting. Help us to bring up our Children according to your will, help us to transform them into your true slaves, so that you will be happy with us .

Allah Says in the glorious Quran: O ye who believe! If any from among you turn back from his faith, soon will Allah produce a people whom He will love, and they will love Him; humble with the believers and mighty against the rejecters; fighting in the way of Allah, and never afraid of the reproaches of such as find fault. That is the Grace of Allah, which He will bestow on whom He Pleaseth: and Allah Encompasseth all, and He Knoweth all things. QURAN[5:54] And Allah alone knows the best. I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour. UmmahHelpline

What is the limit of oral sex?

ﺑﺴﻢ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﺮﺣﻤﻦ ﺍﻟﺮﺣﻴﻢ All praise is due to Allah: The lord of the worlds; The lord of the universe; We praise him, We seek his forgiveness and we ask him to guide us. Whoever Allah guides, None can lead astray and whoever he misguides, None can guide. There is no power and no strength except from Allah, The most high, Most great. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, nodai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Narrated An-Nu'man bin Bashir: The Prophet said "Both legal and illegal things are obvious, and in between them are (suspicious) doubtful matters. So who-ever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will definitely avoid what is clearly illegal; and who-ever indulges in these (suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e. private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in it at any moment." SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[VOL:3, BOOK:34, HADITH:267]

Oral sex means: where by one touches ones spouses private part with ones mouth.

There is absolutely no mention of ‘oral sex’ being legal or forbidden either in Quran or in hadith. However Islamic scholars have given their opinion against the ‘oral sex’, according to their opinion this act is impure and is more close to haram than to halhaal. And mouth is a place from where Quran or other Dhikr are recited must not be used to touch such unclean places.

Allah Says in the glorious Quran: Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet (Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the Law and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil:he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’ (good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him: it is they who will prosper."QURAN [7:157]

Thus getting involved in oral sex is per se impure acts. A believer should fear Allah and should abstain from this act.

What is the limit of oral sex?
A believer should avoid and abstain from getting involved in the act of oral sex. Oral sex is ‘Khabaaith’ (impure), and is unnatural, unhealthy, unhygienic, and unclean, and thus in its essence closer to the unlawful than the lawful in Islam.and it is also a doubtful matter.

…he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’ (good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and impure);… QURAN [7:157]

Will it be oral sex if husband and wife kiss, lick, suck one another's private part but not ejaculate in mouth?
Dear brother, if one touches or kisses or licks, or sucks ones spouses private part with ones mouth, then one is involved in the act called ‘oral sex’. And Allah alone knows the best.

I ask Allah to make this a sincere effort, seeking his pleasure, and I ask him to grant us refuge in him from the evils within ourselves, and that in our deeds. I ask him to grant us success in achieving whatever pleases him; And May Allah Shower His blessings and mercy upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his family and his Companions and on all those who follow him until the final hour.
SOURCE: ummahhelpline

Ill effects of porn addiction or porn?

Today internet offers many services which are very useful to the human civilization, be it encyclopedia, e-mail, e-shopping, etc but despite many useful services no one can deny that it too offers some evil services which are considered dangerous to the human civilization by all religions and one of these evil service is pornography. There are around 420 million pornographic WebPages, which include both paid and free porn content.
We after deep research found these ill effects of porn addiction or porn:
1. Majority of the porn addicts experience difficulty in their personal and social life as they isolate themselves to continue fueling their addiction.
2. Anti-pornography activist, Gail Dines, notes that young men who become addicted to porn neglect their schoolwork, spend huge amount of money they don’t have, become isolated from others and often suffer depression. Dr. william strutem(phd in biopsychology from university of Illinois at Chicago) adds some more. Men using porn becomes highly intolerant, have high anxiety, narcissistic, curious, have low self esteem, depressed, dissociative, distractible.
3. One turns to frequent masturbation.
4. Ironically while viewing porn, it creates momentarily intense pleasurable experience, it ends up leading to several negative lingering psychological experience.
5. As men fall deeper into the mental habit of seeing porn, the exposure to it creates neural pathways, so through these path ways the erotic becomes easy next time as any material is viewed or as any thought of it goes through one’s mind, and as one continue to view, these neural paths become wider and clear and finally becomes an automatic pathway.
6. In married life it makes the real sexual relation with your spouse and the real world boring, thus creates differences in ones relationship in the real world.
7. Porn keeps one’s mind busy with it, which in turn decreases your productivity at work place or at school and you start losing your memory and interest. And Allah alone knows the best.
SOURCE: ummahhelpline.Com