Is touching, kissing, hugging wife permitted while in fasting?

Answer:

Yahya related to me from Malik from Abu'n-Nadr, the mawla of Umar ibn Ubaydullah that A'isha bint Talha told him that she was once with A'isha, the wife of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and her husband, who was fasting, came and visited her there. (He was Abdullah ibn Abd ar-Rahman ibn Abi Bakras-Siddiq.) A'isha said to him, "What's stopping you from coming close to your wife and kissing her and joking with her?" He said, "Can I kiss her when I am fasting?" She said, "Yes." MALIK MUWATTA[BOOK 18: HADITH 18.5.16 ]

Hafsa (Allah be pleased with her) reported that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) kissed (his wives) while fasting. SAHIH MUSLIM [BOOK 6: HADITH 2448]

'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) used to kiss (his wives) while fasting and embraced (them) while fasting; but he had the greatest mastery over his desire among you. SAHIH MUSLIM[BOOK 6 : HADITH 2439]

Thus it is clear from the above narrations that touching, kissing, & hugging wife does not invalidate or decreases the value of your fast in the sight of Allah. And Allah knows the best. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Marriage & parents

Assalamu Alaikum: can we marry without the permission of our parents and if we do so , is the marriage valid?

Answer:

Allah & his messenger(pbuh) have declared marriage a sunnah in Islam , but have commanded & made it absolutely obligatory (fard-ayn) on every believer to obey their parents, as Allah says in the Quran:

“And your lord has decreed that you worship none but him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.” QURAN [17:23]

“And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."” QURAN[17:24]

If the parents are not commenced then marry the man/women whom both you & your parents approve of. But what ever the case don’t disobey your parents. The marriage is a voluntary act but to obey lawful command of our parents is an absolutely obligatory duty of every believer, as prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said

Narrated Anas: The Prophet was asked about the great sins He said, "They are:-- (1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents.
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill) (i.e. to commit the crime of murdering).
(4) And to give a false witness." SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[Volume 3, Book 48, Number 821]

Narrated byAbudDarda When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it." AL-TIRMIDHI[Hadith 4928]

Allah Says in the Holy Quran : ……But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knows and ye know not. QURAN[2:216]

Thus It would absolutely not be considered righteousness, (in what ever situation)for a believing women to arrange her own marriage with out the approval of parents.

Narrated by Aisha, Ummul Mu`minin The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians (wali) is void.' (He (saws) said these words three times.) ABU-DAWUD[Hadith 2078]

Narrated by Abu Hurayrah Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A woman may not give a woman in marriage, nor may she give herself in marriage, for the immoral woman is the one who gives herself in marriage." AL-TIRMIDHI[Hadith 3137]

Islam also guides that the parents should not force their son/daughter to marry someone he/she does not wish to do not marry, nor should son/daughter force his /her parents. marriage is not merely a union of two people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son is so in ‘love’ with an eligible girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the boy are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the girl…..they should accede with the choice and request of their son.

Narrated byAbuHurayrah Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.' Tirmidhi, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah transmitted it. AL-TIRMIDHI[Hadith 3090]

Regarding the validity of marrage:

There are four absolutely obligatory conditions for a marriage or ‘nikaah’ to be deemed lawful in the Sight of Shariah and of Allah :
1. Proposal by one party and acceptance by the other.
2. The determination of ‘mehr’ for the bride.
3. The availability of at least two witnesses to the marriage contract.
4. The consent of the parents/guardians (wali) of the bride.
If even one of the above four obligatory conditions of a ‘nikaah’ are not honored, the marriage will not be deemed lawful, in the light of shariha

It is not necessary for a man to take his parents consent to get married. But it would be more befitting a believer if he takes the blessings of his parents. That would be best. And Allah knows the best. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Things that will break the fast & what about EYE DROPS

Answer:

There are five things which will break the fast:

1: Intentional eating

2: Intentional drinking

3: Sexual intercourse

4: voluntary semen discharge

5: the menstruation of the woman while fasting

The scholars and jurists in Islam are unanimous in their opinion that the application of eye-drops or eye-tubes for the ailment in one’s eyes do not effect the validity of one’s fast in the least….and Allah Alone Knows Best. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

MILAAD: Celebrating Birth-day of Prophet Mohammad (pbuh)

Answer:

Historians are in contradictions and disagreements regarding the exact date of birth of our beloved prophet Mohammad (pbuh), and there is no record of the date of birth of our beloved prophet Mohammad (pbuh) in Quran & Hadith, so it is clear that the birth days where not important in Islam. However one thing that is mentioned in the Hadith regarding the birth of our beloved prophet is that our prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was born on Monday as related in this narration:

Abu Qatada Ansari (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah's Massenger (may peace be upon him) was asked about fasting on Monday, whereupon he said: It is (the day) when I was born and revelation was sent down to me. SAHIH MUSLIM [Book 6 : Hadith 2606 ]

Thus if one loves prophet Mohammad (pbuh), then he should strive to follow the actions & commands of prophet Mohammad(pbuh), and should avoid the acts that where not performed or commanded by our beloved Mohammad(pbuh). If we claim to believe in Allah and the Last Day, then we must try and do everything the Prophet (saws) did, and stay away from everything that the Prophet (saws) stayed away from, as that could not be part of religion, as Allah says in the quran:

“There is indeed the best model for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much”. Quran[33:21].

The birth-day or death-day of any individual has absolutely no significance in the deen of Islam, and our beloved prophet Mohammad (pbuh) never ever celebrate his own birth day or any loved ones nor did his companions, who loved him more than anyone else.

Therefore if anyone starts any new thing in the complete and pure deen of Islam for the pleasure of Allah, then no doubt he is inventing a new thing in the deen of islam, which has been completed by Allah on our beloved prophet Mohammad(pbuh) as Allah says in the Quran:

"This day I have perfected for you your religion and completed my favour upon you and have approved for you Islam as a religion." Quran(5: 3).

Thus their can be no addition or deletion of any thing in the complete religion of Islam. The celebrating of the birthday of our beloved prophet Mohammad (pbuh) is a clear and manifest bida/ innovation in the pure deen of Islam, and the believers should fear Allah and absolutely abstain from this, as these innovations are errors and every error leads to hell fire.

Jabir b. Abdullah said: When Allah's Messenger (may peace he upon him) delivered the sermon, his eyes became red, his voice rose. and his anger increased so that he was like one giving a warning against the enemy and saying:" The enemy has made a morning attack on you and in the evening too." He would also say:" The last Hour and I have been sent like these two." and he would join his forefinger and middle finger; and would further say:" The best of the speech is embodied in the Book of Allah, and the beet of the guidance is the guidance given by Muhammad. And the most evil affairs are their innovations; and every innovation is error." SAHIH MUSLIM[Book 4: Hadith 1885]

Narrated Aisha: Allah's Apostle said, "If somebody innovates something which is not in harmony with the principles of our religion, that thing is rejected." SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[Volume 3, Book 49, Number 861:]

If anyone introduces an innovation, he will be responsible for it. If anyone introduces an innovation or gives shelter to a man who introduces an innovation (in religion), he is cursed by Allah, by His angels, and by all the people. ABU DAWUD[Book 39 : Hadith 4515]

Thus innovations are the evil affairs , so we should abstain from the things which are not done by messenger of Allah or commanded by Allah & his messenger(pbuh) as it is the solemn belief of every true believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, that there was, is, or never will be anyone in the annuls of creation who worshipped Allah more or better than the Noble Last and Final Messenger of Allah. And Allah knows the best. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Is it permitted for husband & wife to have sexual intercourse in Ramadan?

 

Answer:

Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah. Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint. Quran(2:187)

Thus it is permissible for husband & wife to have sexual intercourse during the nights of ramdan or fasts, but it is forbidden for them to have sexual intercourse during the fasting hours i.e. while they are fasting. If however one does intercourse while fasting then he has to pay for this transgression by either freeing a slave, (if he can not afford to do that ) then fast for two months consecutive, (if he can not have that much strength, ) then by feeding 60 poor people & this would be ‘kaffarah’ for going beyond limits set by Allah. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Can we burn candles in shabe barat is it right in islam?

Answer:

Giving significance to the night of 15th Sha'ban, visiting graveyards, doing extra Ibaadah (worship) and offering extra Nawaafil Salaah with the intention of specifically doing so on the occasion of 15th Sha'ban, having illuminations, considering it to be the Eid of the dead and keeping awake for the whole night of 15th Sha'ban and encouraging others to do the same -- all these are Bid'ah (innovation) . The prophet and the Sahaabah never did so nor commanded the muslims to do so. Thus the burning of candles on the 15th shaban is also bida or innovation, and innovations are the evil affairs,

The best of the speech is embodied in the Book of Allah, and the best of the guidance is the guidance given by Muhammad. And the most evil affairs are their innovations; and every innovation is error." SAHIH MUSLIM[Book 4: Hadith 1885]

If anyone introduces an innovation, he will be responsible for it. If anyone introduces an innovation or gives shelter to a man who introduces an innovation (in religion), he is cursed by Allah, by His angels, and by all the people. ABU DAWUD[Book 39 : Hadith 4515]

so we should abstain from the things which are not done by messenger of Allah or companions of mohammad(pbuh) or commanded by Allah & his messenger(pbuh) as it is the solemn belief of every true believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, that there was, is, or never will be anyone in the annuls of creation who worshipped Allah more or better than the Noble Last and Final Messenger of Allah. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

What to recite during intercource with wife?

Answer:

When the husband approaches the wife for sexual intercourse, he should recite the “'Bismillah. Allah humma jannib nas-Shaytaan wa jannib nas-Shaytaana feema razaktana’ (In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from the Shaytaan and prevent the Shaytaan from approaching our offspring you (may) bestow upon us)” this is reported in the Hadith below:

Narrated by Ibn Abbas: The Prophet (saws) said, "If anyone of you, when having sexual relation with his wife, says:'Bismillah. Allah humma jannib nas-Shaytaan wa jannib nas-Shaytaana feema razaktana’ (In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from the Shaytaan and prevent the Shaytaan from approaching our offspring You (may) bestow upon us) and if he begets a child (as a result of that relation) Shaytaan will not (be able to) harm it." SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[Volume 4, Book 54, Number 493]

By Reciting The Above, Shatan Will Not Be Able To Cause Any Harm To The Husband & Wife Or The Child. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Anal Sex

asalamualykum; i have read your post regarding the prohibition of things for husband & wife, and you mentioned sex through anus is prohibited, so plz give me references from Quran and hadith to clearfy that, thanks  

Answer

It is strictly prohibited in Islam to enter the wife through her anus; Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) strongly prohibited the believing men not to have sexual intercourse with wife through her anus. Those who does are under curse and has nothing to do with what has been sent down to Muhammad (pbuh). This is mentioned in the narrations below:

Narrated byAbdullah ibn Abbas Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) received the revelation, "Your wives are a tilth to you, so come to your tilth.....", that means from in front or behind, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation. Al-Tirmidhi [Hadith: 3191]

Narrated byKhuzaymah ibn Thabit The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Allah is not ashamed of the truth. Do not have intercourse with women through the anus." Al-Tirmidhi [Hadith: 3192]

Narrated byAbdullah ibn Abbas Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with a man or a woman through the anus." Al-Tirmidhi [Hadith: 3195]

Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: He who has intercourse with his wife through her anus is accursed. Abu-Dawud [Book 11 : Hadith 2157 ]

Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If anyone resorts to a diviner and believes in what he says (according) to the version of Musa), or has intercourse with his wife (according to the agreed version) when she is menstruating, or has intercourse with his wife through her anus, he has nothing to do with what has been sent down to Muhammad (peace_be_upon_him) Abu-Dawud [Book 29 : Hadith 3895 ]

thus it becomes clear from the above narrations that it is strictly prohabited in islam to have anal sex with wife. may allah guide us to the right path LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

What is forbidden in sex with wife?

Answer:

The things which are prohabited in sex with wife are:

1. It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with one’s wife during her period of menstruation.

2. It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus (anal sex).

3. ‘oral’ sex, whereby one touches the other’s private organs with their mouth. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Can a person with impurity touch the Quran?

Answer:

Believers, who are not clean due to sexual impurity or other, are not allowed to touch the glorious Quran, till they are not clean as Allah says in the Quran:

“That this is indeed a quran Most Honourable, In a Book well-guarded, Which none shall touch but those who are clean:” QURAN [56:77, 78, 79]

Can husband approach his wife for sexual intercourse during her (menstrual) periods?

Answer:

Allah has forbidden the believing men not to approach their women’s for sexual intercourse when they are in periods as it is a harmful thing for a husband to have sexual intercourse with his wife while she is in menses.

They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. QURAN[2:222]

The Prophet said:

Do anything you wish except having sexual intercourse. SAHIH MUSLIM[ Book 3 : Hadith 592]

Thus a believing man can enjoy anything with his wife except the sexual intercourse; the man can perform the sexual intercourse with her wife only when she takes bath after periods.

The prophet Mohammad (pbuh) used to fondle with his wives during the periods as mentioned in this narration:

Narrated Maimuna: When ever Allah's Apostle wanted to fondle any of his wives during the periods (menses), he used to ask her to wear an Izar. SAHIH AL-BUKHARI [Volume 1, Book 6, Number 300]

This is why most of the scholars said that it is allowed to fondle the wife, except for having sexual intercourse (when she is having her menses). The scholars also agree that the woman is obliged to take a bath, or to perform Tayammum with sand, if she is unable to use water, before she is allowed to have sexual intercourse with her husband, after the monthly period ends. LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

Can one sleep in junub?

Answer:

If a believer is in junub during the night then he can continue to sleep by only performing ablution. Then he can perform the Gusul before the Morning Prayer as narrated:

Narrated Abu Salama : I asked 'Aisha "Did the Prophet use to sleep while he was Junub?" She replied, "Yes, but he used to perform ablution (before going to bed). SAHIH AL-BUKHARI[Volume 1, Book 5, Number 284] LIKE US ON FACEBOOK

After the birth of Baby

After how many days we should cut the hair of a baby after birth?

Answer:

"And whatever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatever he forbids you, leave it. And fear Allah: truly Allah is severe in punishment. " [Qur'an 59:7]

When the baby(male or female) is born, the things which need to be done includes, shaving head, sacrifice, assigning name.

Narrated Samurah ibn Jundub: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: A boy is in pledge for his Aqiqah, Sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved and he is given name. ABU-DAWUD[Book 15 : Hadith 2832]

The sacrifice for a male child is two sheep’s/goats and one sheep/goat for a female child. The Aqiqa is the responsibility of the parents, if they did not perform it due to whatever reasons, on the 7th (seventh day) of birth, then there is no need of doing it later. If a believer does offer the sacrifice as a form of gratitude to his Merciful Creator, there is a huge reward, and if one does not offer it, there is no sin.

Yahya related to me from Malikfrom Jafar ibn Muhammad that his father said, "Fatima, the daughter of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, weighed the hair of Hasan, Husayn, Zaynab and Umm Kulthum, and gave away in sadaqa an equivalent weight of silver." MALIK MUWATTA[Book 26 : Hadith 26.1.2]

Yahya related to me from Malik from Rabia ibn Abi Abd ar-Rahman that Muhammad ibn Ali ibn al-Husayn said, "Fatima, the daughter of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, weighed the hair of Hasan and Husayn, and gave away in sadaqa the equivalent weight in silver." MALIK MUWATTA [Book 26 : Hadith 26.1.3]

After the aqiqa on the 7th day, assign a good name to the baby, and shave the head of the baby and give silver as charity ( sadqa) of the weight of the hair.